It’s good to see men prepared to go public with their experiences of suffering domestic violence:
What I found particularly infuriating about this, apart from the fact that this bitch faced no consequences for her abuse, was that she used the threat of a false rape allegation to keep him in line and also tried to paint him as the abuser.
A part of the problem is that a true gentleman is not supposed to hit back. And if he does,the gentlemen’s court system will punish only him,because punishing women is un-gentlemanly.
So what’s a man to do in a gentleman’s world?
Reblogged this on World4Justice : NOW! Lobby Forum..
Telling such stories are important. Men face a strange alliance of Chivalry and Feminism . Both require Gentlemanly behaviour of self sacrifice and protection. Thus Ben has to protest he isn’t a sissy ( by expressing his physical and emotional hurt). A protective role with his ex., hiding, excusing and assuming some sort of responsibility of the abuse. Finally facing the fact that his society will assume he is what his girlfriend needs protection from. At least Ben realised that he needed recorded evidence in the face of this prejudice. Ben deserves praise for sharing his story and so clearly showing the barriers ( internal and external) to males who find they are victims of abuse. And victims of the social conventions and public service ideology that force them to suffer in silence and isolation. Though the social conventions are hard to shift , public policy should not be sexist.
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