Jonathon Conte, 34, RIP

Patrick Smyth has just reported some tragic news, the suicide of well-known American intactivist Jonathon Conte, at the age of 34. Another American campaigner, Marilyn Fayre Milos, reported the news on her Facebook page – here.

Patrick took a ‘selfie’ with Jonathon during a protest in Denver, Colorado, in July 2014. Jonathon is on the right:

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A photograph of Jonathon during a protest in 2012, drawn by Patrick from his Facebook page:

Jonathon Conte, Denver, Colorado, July 2014

We covered the issue of male suicide in our 2015 general election manifesto (pp.46-8). The male:female suicide differential more than doubled in the 30 years between 1983 and 2013, from 1.7:1 to 3.5:1. In the manifesto we reported that the taxpayer is funding six research studies into male suicide, at a cost of £1.5 million. None of them have a remit to consider male suicide specifically. In the meantime, the government is spending £30 million encouraging more women into engineering.

The primary driver of male suicide is reactive depression, brought on by overwhelming life events. My article on the matter for the International Business Times is here. In most cases the state is the cause of that reactive depression, through its responses (or lack of responses) to:

– access to children following family breakdowns
– male victims of domestic violence
– homelessness
– MGM (failing to enforce the law, by prosecuting the criminals who carry out the mutilations)

I don’t have an estimate of the number of men who commit suicide as a result of MGM, but I’d be willing to bet that in the vast majority of cases the men aren’t anti-MGM campaigners, they’ve suffered in silence. MGM as the direct cause of the mental anguish which led to them committing suicide will have been lost to posterity.

Of course men should talk to professionals about their depression, but talking won’t restore foreskins, deliver access to children, or solve homelessness… or solve most of the other problems impacting so heavily on men, that they decide death is preferable to life.

On Thursday, in two days time, we’ll be having the fourth of a series of six anti-MGM protests, in Golders Green, London. Details of all three remaining protests before the London conference are here. I urge you to join us, in part for the memory of Jonathon Conte, yet another fine man lost through the consequences of MGM. Patrick Smyth will, of course, be there. His dedication to the cause of intactivism knows no bounds, and we salute him.

We end with the start of our manifesto section on suicide:

Anyone with suicidal inclinations is strongly advised to seek help, perhaps by calling the Samaritans. Their website is http://samaritans.org, phone 08457 909090 (Republic of Ireland – 116 123), email jo@samaritans.org.

About Mike Buchanan

I'm a men's human rights advocate, writer, and publisher. My primary focus is leading the political party I launched in 2013, Justice for Men & Boys (and the women who love them). I still work actively on two campaigns I launched in early 2012, Campaign for Merit in Business and the Anti-Feminism League. In 2014 I launched The Alternative Sexism Project, aiming to raise public understanding that the sexism faced by men and boys has far more grievous consequences than the sexism faced by women and girls.
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13 Responses to Jonathon Conte, 34, RIP

  1. cutupbymgm says:

    I am deeply saddened by this news and will do all within my power to honour the memory of Jonathon and his valiant efforts to rid the world of this most iniquitous of human rights abuses. I shall be on the front line once again on Thursday in Golders Green!

  2. This was a waste of a life, all caused because he was strapped down and robbed of his sexual pleasure for life. I’m currently on anti-depressants due to suicidal thoughts as a direct result of being unnecessarily circumcised in my teens. It destroys everything. Most people have no idea how damaging MGM is. But men, being men, just live with the pain in silence. And the ones, like me, who speak up are never listened to .

    • Thanks Lawrence. You’re listened to here, and I thank you for your comments here and on our YouTube channel. We’re doing all we can to end MGM in the UK.

    • paranova9 says:

      Lawrence, exactly right. and why “men, being men, just live with the pain in silence”? might it have something to do with the training we received early in life – that no matter how hard we scream, no one will be coming to save us?

      if you were circumcised in your teens, that means you were given anesthesia. sexual pleasure for life, flesh, dignity, autonomy, … these are all the lesser of things that were stolen.

      “Rupture of the Lung
      The medical literature details cases of circumcised babies whose lungs have burst as a result of intense crying. In one case, at Georgetown University School of Medicine, a fifteen-day-old baby with severe respiratory distress was circumcised. He turned blue, started breathing frantically, and cried incessantly. Finally, doctors discovered that the crying had caused the baby’s right lung to burst. A drainage tube was inserted and the baby was hospitalized for nineteen days.”

      • Well while both genetics and culture shape us, when it comes to the differences between men and women, I think most if not all is genetic. So this is simply a flaw in men. Women are far more willing to talk about their problems, though, they take it to the opposite extreme, as we see with feminists who invent problems. And while talking can help women get through trauma and grief, men don’t seem to respond as well to that. Men prefer to seek solutions or throw themselves into a project.

        I was given a general anaesthetic. When I woke up and got home and unwrapped the bandage , I got the shock of my life. It was traumatic. I knew then and there my sex life was over. It’s astonishing to me how many intact men don’t know their glans is non-erogenous and the nice feelings come from the foreskin. But I guess if it feels good, they’re not bothering about localising the feelings. In my case, I knew it was the foreskin as I had a foreskin that couldn’t retract, so masturbation involved manipulating the tip of the foreskin. That’ll be the ridged band, which has most of the erogenous nerves.

        While I think all circumcised men are equally damaged on a physical level, most who’re cut at birth at least generally don’t have the trauma/anxiety to deal with. Having that point of comparison and having it taken off you like that, is just terrible.

      • Thanks Lawrence. To my mind most of the problem of the lack of empathy towards males’ suffering (which we find in both men and women) can be explained by gynocentrism. Also, what’s the point of talking about your problems if talking will do nothing about the source of the problems, whether it be MGM, lack of access to kids after family breakdowns, or a host of other issues faced by men? It’s why it may be more psychologically healthy (at least with respect to reducing stress / depression etc.) to not be angry about having been circumcised, even to ascribe value to it, but then of course the next generation of males suffers in turn. I don’t believe ‘education’ will ever end MGM. The police / CPS need to start bringing prosecutions, because MGM is undoubtedly illegal in the UK. This will be the theme of our protest outside the Home Office 1 June. Would you like to join us?

  3. Conte’s suicide is proof of the harm intactivism does to circumcised males. By deceiving them into believing they are missing something important it causes needless psychological distress. I wonder how many others will follow Conte’s example and end it all, as a result of believing the lies of intactivists?

    • Thay ARE missing something important, the flesh that contains the vast majority of the nerve cells that give pleasure to men during sex. Rabbi Moses Maimonides explained in the 12th century that the whole point of MGM was to reduce men’s libido and pleasure during sex. The lies are not coming from intactivists, but those who would continue the mutilation of young males’ genitals, without a single good reason. I will not allow this website to become a propaganda site for those promoting these mutilations.

    • And yet you cannot cite any neurological evidence the foreskin has no erogenous nerves. And you call all intact men liars . Go back to the gilgal society and look at your child porn, circumfetishist.

      Intact men say foreskin feels amazing. Enough said.

    • Well as someone who was circumcised unnecessarily in my teens, I know with certainty circumcised men are left with little to no pleasure. In my case, I was left with none as I have no frenulum, no frenular delta and no ridged band. The glans is non-erogenous, so do the maths. ED, depression, PTSD, terrible sex life. Thanks NHS.

      According to Stephen Moreton, the circumsexual who spends his days trolling anti-mutilation articles, all men who haven’t been circumcised are liars when they say the foreskin feels amazing.

      I’m still waiting on neurological evidence no erogenous nerves are in the foreskin. Not one pro-circer has been able to prove the glans is erogenous and the foreskin is non-erogenous. Not one. Meanwhile, histological analysis shows almost all the fine-touch receptors are in the foreskin.

    • paranova9 says:

      David Reimer didn’t even need intactivism to know that he was missing something.

  4. “Mike Buchanan says:
    May 23, 2016 at 12:08 am
    Thanks Lawrence. To my mind most of the problem of the lack of empathy towards males’ suffering (which we find in both men and women) can be explained by gynocentrism. Also, what’s the point of talking about your problems if talking will do nothing about the source of the problems, whether it be MGM, lack of access to kids after family breakdowns, or a host of other issues faced by men? It’s why it may be more psychologically healthy (at least with respect to reducing stress / depression etc.) to not be angry about having been circumcised, even to ascribe value to it, but then of course the next generation of males suffers in turn. I don’t believe ‘education’ will ever end MGM. The police / CPS need to start bringing prosecutions, because MGM is undoubtedly illegal in the UK. This will be the theme of our protest outside the Home Office 1 June. Would you like to join us?”

    It wouldn’t let me reply to you there, Mike, so a new post is needed.

    I couldn’t trust myself to join you and remain calm. This is why I’m always amazed at how the Bloodstained Men in the USA are able to to continually do what they do and calmly handle the abuse and ignorance thrown at them. Knowing what I know, and given my mind right now, it wouldn’t be good for me. But if there’s anything I can do on this issue from behind a screen, e.g. writing letters explaining what happened to me and what circumcision does, I’d be delighted to help.

    As for talking therapy, in the last year I’ve tried to engage with what the NHS offered me. I saw a clinical psychologist about 6 times and he then referred me to a mental health nurse, who I saw about 6 times, too. She referred me to a “health psychologist” and I gave up on it all at that point. It wasn’t doing me any good, because they didn’t want to talk about circumcision at all. The clinical psychologist kept throwing in red herrings like asking me about my relationship with my parents and suchlike, and the impression I got (and this was something I predicted beforehand) is he was trying to blame my problems on something else. The mental health nurse, though she listened to what I had to say, and even agreed circumcision is awful, wanted me to stop talking about it. And at the end of the day, I felt nothing can be achieved by talking as I can’t reverse my circumcision, and I also feel powerless as I’m unable to pursue compensation/an apology, and I can’t use my knowledge and experience to get it banned. The whole system is corrupt.

    I think gynocentrism is something that’s always been in us, both men and women. Think of chivalry. And I don’t think it’s a bad thing per se necessarily. Hundreds of years ago, it made sense. Even 100 years ago, it made sense. But now, the gynocentrism has got worse and at the same time, men are even demonised for being men/masculine. In the days of actual patriarchy, men, while having to go to war and suffer the most risk, at least got to be themselves, do jobs men are naturally attracted to and skilled at, and to protect women and be respected for that. Now we live in an economy 87% or more is services and fluff, with little manufacturing, and a legal system heavily stacked in women’s favour.

    I would love to see all men in the UK refuse to work for a week and see what happened. Then later see all women refuse to work for a week and see what happened. Something tells me the country wouldn’t come to a standstill when all the women sat on their sofas, but if all men jacked it all in, it would be catastrophic. Just look at the tax gap. But due to progressive liberal education and media propaganda, most people just don’t seem to understand this.

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